Declining

I think the last 10 years have been detrimental to Greece’s family values, at least at the parts I’m from. The ’80s were the times where our status from third world country changed to almost-first, the ’90s were the establishment of that new status, and the ’00s was all about the decline of the public ethos. Just like a newly-rich person frantically dives himself into whores and cocaine.

All I hear now over here is about how drugs have taken over the youth. When I was a teen I’ve never seen any hard drugs in my area, and only very few youngsters that we knew smoke a joint every now and then. Now, children as young as 12 are having sex, and stay out partying up to 3 AM. In comparison, I was 16 when I started going out with friends, I was always back by 11:30 PM, and I didn’t lose my virginity until I was 19 (to a fiance no less).

An even more common gossip than the youth pAArtying, are about the adults. I’ve never heard of so many cases of spouse-cheating than I do now. I really don’t think we ever had so many cases of cheating in our town and surrounding villages. There were always some such cases (heck, I always considered my own dad a womanizer, for example), but definitely not to the degree that I hear these days. I hear about teenagers getting into the middle married couples (often with children) and ending up divorcing them. I hear about middle-aged married men with children sleeping with 75 year old women for money or for fun. I hear about previously fine 45-ish year old married women suddenly charging for sex at this age. Not to mention the porn movies some women from a nearby village shot, that I heard about. I’m truly shocked about what’s going on in the last few years over here, and I’m not a person that gets shocked easily.

There were many times in the past when Greeks made fun of the divorce rate in the US. They portrayed the Americans as people without family values. Now, Greece’s divorce rate is as high, if not higher. Sure, I had two failed engagements myself in the ’90s, but I never cheated, and I’d like to think that I wasn’t cheated upon either. In fact, I’m still friends with my second fiance, and there’s no bitterness between us. We just fell out of love, and we took our separate ways. Since then, I got married, happily for over 10 years now, with an amazing French guy. Instead, all the couples I’ve heard that they divorced around my Greek parts in the past few years, were almost all cases of known cheating.

To me, that’s pure and plain declining. People with too much money or time on their hands. Boredom even. I might be sounding “old”, evangelizing the good old days, but it’s not so. I always saw myself as a moderate, so I always try to keep the best parts of each lifestyle: the freedom of the modern lifestyle, but also the family values of the old ways. Besides, the good old days were not that good either, there were constantly problems of money and convenience. But I prefer a whole village in poverty, eating nettle soup & wild amaranth greens and herding goats, than women soliciting and charging 20 Euros for a blow job, just because they find it easier to do just that rather than go and find real work.

Remember, these are lands where everyone knows everyone else. Reputation is everything. It’s your make and your unmake.

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Mirko wrote on August 3rd, 2011 at 2:19 PM PST:

If you look into the past of the area people were not that different, they probably did alcohol instead of cocaine, beat up children and wife instead of having sex around to vent, rape some girl instead to pay her 20 euros, rob the neighbour goats instead of robbing the EU

They already had bad reputation 😀
A way out from the anonymity? the important is to be spoken about?
Probably just a way to keep their self busy

Probably today they experience more boredom caused by the media overstimulation…they switch off the telly, close the connection to internet and go out feeling all this pressure…realizing they are still stuck in a bunch of 10 houses built at the side of a road in the middle of nowhere, and they do crazy things.

This happened everywhere, seems like my father village in Italy 20 years ago. It’s boredom, lack of perspective, lack of culture and critic sense. You don’t even need to be 100 km away from a city. Just looking into suburban areas you can see the maximum of violence, drug, sex etc They probably have all the services too, and a quick way to reach the city center but when they come back home they are in a sort of limbo. When I was in high school people doing drugs were mostly the ones of the suburban areas.

Nowadays I believe there are only two kind of places where to live…In the center of a big city, meaning where things happen and culture is developed or in a remote place without connection to the center.

All you find in between seems to focus only in the negative aspects of both worlds, especially for those that never lived at least in one.

😀 When I’ll call my mother I’m gonna read her your article. So she could be proud of. Do they still publish a sort of local newspaper? If it still exist it must turned in a gossip tabloid with your neighbour wife naked picture on the cover. Priceless


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Eugenia wrote on August 3rd, 2011 at 2:58 PM PST:

Thank you for the comment Mirko. Indeed, it must be something like this, just as you analyzed it. Yes, our village has a local newspaper, maybe your mother who’s originally from the same village as I am could become a subscriber, it could keep her close to the things of our village. Our village also has a blog with news, videos and pictures, she probably will still recognize people shown there.


Loic wrote on August 5th, 2011 at 9:19 AM PST:

Maybe it all started when a greek philosopher named Georgios Kyriákos Panayótou said:

Sex is natural
Sex is good
Not everybody does it
But everybody should
🙂


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